by Rosie Moore | Feb 13, 2017 | Blog
Did you ever ask yourself, why do I love my significant other? Why do I tolerate football games on Sundays, the remote being lost, the different ways that your significant other handles the kids vs. how you do? Is it love? Is it being complacent? Is it because there is no one else out there? Deep down when you think about the reasons that you fell in love, those reasons are all there. Love is messy and not the way you see it on Hallmark movies. I love my Hallmark movies and never miss a chance to watch them. As a matter of fact, I have not missed any of the Valentine’s Day movies they have been showing over the last 2 weeks. So today on the eve of Valentine’s Day, I think about all of that and I ask myself, “why do I love Marcus so much?”
When Marcus and I met, he left a whole world behind in NJ to be with my two children and me. He did not look back to see what he left behind. A few years later, we had a baby that was born at 27 weeks. I became very sick with stroke level blood pressure and almost lost my life. After the baby was born 13 weeks early, he took care of me and made sure that I got to the hospital for 5 months while our baby hung on for his life. When the baby came home, he left his job to take care of the him full-time because of all the medical challenges that he had. It has been 7 years since our baby was born and thanks to him, our son has had a fighting chance of recovery as he received care from therapists at home and good medical care.
When he is not taking care of the baby, he is taking care of our dog Daisy and my parents. He nursed our family dog Rusty until his last breath, When he could not walk, he would pick him up and take him outside, bathe him, brush him and hand feed him. When my older kids need something, they call on him and he is always there with a smile on his face to lend a helping hand. There are not any words to express what he does for us all. In between all of this, he manages my
author contracts, our wedding business
27 Miracles, and our charity
The Gift of Life. He is now my manager as well for
Mrs. Windermere. Inbetween all of this, he goes out and
marries couples . Happy Valentine’s Day to my angel and funny Valentine Marcus, God gave me a Winner!!!!”
So today take a moment to share how you are celebrating Valentine’s Day? Post your story here on my facebook page with a picture of your love and we will share it.
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by Rosie Moore | Feb 8, 2017 | Blog
Sometimes in life we get busy and we put things off until we have time to fulfill our dream. Jobs, family, pregnancy and obligations keep us busy. Part of marriage is not tolerating each other only, but romancing your spouse……say I love you for any reason daily, not just “love you” I can love cake and ice cream or the movies….really say ” I Love You” and take ownership of the feelings you are expressing. It is a bond not only in marriage but in your faith in God. Marriage is a long-term commitment not to be taken lightly.
This year Valentine’s Day is on a Tuesday; therefore, many of us will be working during the day. In the morning, send a little note to your significant other wishing them a good day, and if time permits, have a lunch date.
Enjoy the day all day long, with little messages, notes, a special breakfast that all lead up to dinner. But always keeping in mind, this is not the only day that we share our love with our significant other, it is daily.
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by Rosie Moore | Feb 7, 2017 | Guest Blog
Today’s Valentine blog is brought to you by Rinat Halon, a Colleague of ours in the wedding industry.
I love photographing weddings because everyone is beautiful and happy on this day. It is a day when deep meaningful vows are exchanged, a great party is planned and the couple’s sparking exit lights up the path to their happily ever after; that is, except for the 50% of married couples who divorce.
Recently I watched the movie How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days—remember this movie? Spoiler alert, if you haven’t seen it, here’s a fair warning that you’re about to find out! I was in bed watching Andie, the main female character, become more and more needy in her behavior toward Benjamin, her love interest. With every needy behavior Andie exhibited, I slipped deeper under the blanket, thinking to myself “oh no, I’ve done that before!” This type of behavior normally sends men running in the opposite direction but Benjamin stayed. Why? I’ll get to that—keep reading.
Valentine’s Day is “the day of atonement” for single women everywhere. If you are currently not married or in a relationship, you’d pretty much rather be dead. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard single women say they hate Valentine’s Day. Poor St. Valentine, he meant so well!
The thing is, Valentine’s Day is about celebrating love and as my friend, Cathleen Pope says, “True love doesn’t just happen, true love is built.” So if you are alone this year on Valentine’s Day, it is probably the best thing that could happen to you. That means you are NOT with a man who is not sure about you, a man who is only there for the good times, or a man who just doesn’t deserve you. So if your man wants to walk out on you saying you are too needy, you are asking for too much, and it’s going too fast, guess what, he is not your valentine and you are better off losing him before Valentine’s Day.
After 18 years of photographing weddings, I can honestly say that the couples who make a mutual decision to go through the tough times together, stay together. So when the going gets tough, it’s not time to turn your back and run, it’s time to grab your love’s hand and jump in head first because like everything else, the only way out of the tough times is through them.
In his book, Take the Stairs, Rory Vaden writes about a natural phenomenon that occurs when a storm approaches. Cows sensing the storm try to run away from it, but the storm catches up with them anyway. Buffalo on the other hand, are very unique for the animal kingdom, they turn and charge directly into the storm and run straight through it. A marriage is about mutual respect, forgiveness and many, many, MANY second chances. If a man cannot commit to you 100% this Valentine’s Day, he will not make it running through the storm of marriage with you.
Going back to How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, Andie actually tried to lose Benjamin on purpose because the whole thing was a setup for a magazine article she was writing. The one thing Andie did not know was that Benjamin had a bet with his colleagues that he would make Andie fall in love with him. Because of that bet, Benjamin endured Andie’s behavior ; behavior that usually sends a guy running in the opposite direction. Andie who just cannot seem to shake Benjamin, cranks up the crazy; but to her surprise, Benjamin, who is suffering so much at this point and would rather be getting his teeth pulled, won’t budge. The most peculiar thing happens, Andie and Benjamin truly fall in love.
They fell in love because they went through the storm together. They got through the good, the bad, and the ugly cry together. They saw each other’s not-so-flattering sides and survived to tell about it. This is the part of a couple’s journey where true love is born. The kind of love that leads to a happy, dedicated, everlasting marriage.
So this Valentine’s Day, celebrate being alone. Celebrate knowing that you let go of the guy that was not 100% sure about you and in doing so, you made room for the awesome guy who is all in and the man who appreciates all you are. You have also made room for the man who loves you despite your faults, and trusts you with his heart, knowing that you are also all in and willing to say you’re sorry and try again a different way.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
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by Rosie Moore | Feb 5, 2017 | Blog
Did you fall in love with your spouse the very first time that you laid eyes on him?
Love will find its way to you. Sometimes you search for love in all the wrong places and you get frustrated looking for love. You find someone and the relationship struggles because love did not find its way yet to you. Love is easy but not easy. If in the dating relationship it is a struggle, then is it love or just someone to pass time with. Does everyone have love at first sight? Not really because some folks have to spend a lot of time together to see if they are a good fit. Some people do find love at first sight and when they do….wow …bam…watch out…the room is electrified and their love spills on everyone around them.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
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by Rosie Moore | Feb 4, 2017 | Blog
Valentine’s Day can be very difficult when you have experienced the loss of your significant other.
Recently I received a message from someone that had lost their husband. She said:
“My husband died a year ago and people are expecting me to be the life and soul of the party but I still cry and grieve over him and miss him very much. In the evening I prefer to stay indoors and read a book rather than go out with friends and they are ringing less and less because I never return their calls. If only they would understand that my relationship was perfect and we were meant to be together forever so I cannot just forget him and move on as though nothing has happened. His death has finished me off.”
It is hard to move on when someone you love passes on. You feel like a piece of you has gone with them. Losing a loved one no matter who they are can be difficult. It is hard during the times of birthdays, anniversaries, and when you hear a special song or something that reminds you of them. Everyone grieves differently and they go through the five stages of death but sometimes we get stuck at one of them or something else happens that brings us right back to the beginning.
No one can tell a person how to grieve and when to let go of grieving. It is something that is so individualized. Sometimes people who have never been through the situation, may say rude things like, move on, he has been gone a year, you will meet someone new. Those are all the wrong things to say to someone, although some may mean well. Retreating to your own space to get away from the negative comments that may be upsetting in the first place, may sound like a good idea at the moment.
One thing to ask yourself is what did the two of you like to do together? This will help you understand what things you are remembering about your love. What makes him who he was that you fell in deep love with him? You may not be able to bring him back, however his memory can live on forever through something that you did together. For instance, if he loved playing with dogs and the thought about helping every stray dog that was out there, maybe a great way to keep his memory alive is to donate your time to a pet rescue where you can give love to a dog that has been abandoned by a family. You will feel fulfilled at the end of the day, because you will see that the thing that someone meant for harm, you turned around to good.
Something else that can help is going to a place of peace for you, maybe a park, the beach, walking through gardens, whatever that place is and if you pray, asking God to help you and get through this with His help. Reading a daily devotion, can also help uplift you daily. If you find that the mornings are hard when you wake up because he is not there, that is the time that you can take to read that inspirational devotion to uplift your spirits as you go through the day. If at night is the hardest, that may be the time to invest yourself in a hobby that you enjoy like dance, painting, sculpting or book clubs, depending on what you like to do. It will also help you meet new people who will not judge you because you don’t know them and they don’t know you. You are there to enjoy a hobby and nothing more so you can be yourself and just not worry that anyone knows anything about you.
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