Sometimes in life, we go through trials that will knock us down, but we are warriors and can get back up. Those are the battle scars that we turn into testimonies and messages from the mess that they cause. I am here today to say that I am living proof that anyone can turn their test into a testimony and their mess into a message. I am going to be transparent today and share with you a glimpse into a part of my message and testimony. I survived bullying as a child, bullying in the workplace as an adult, health issues during a difficult pregnancy, weight gain, emotional scarring from a divorce, and loss of family.
When my ex-husband said to me “you are fat, ugly, and damaged goods, and no one will want you and your baggage of kids.” I lived with this scarring for many years. I believed the lies that this man told me. Now what you don’t know is that at this time I was 5’7″, weighed 124lbs and my body fat was 16% with 98lbs of lean muscle mass. I was in the best shape that I was ever going to be in. I danced, worked out, and ate right. But emotionally, I was a mess because every time I looked in the mirror I saw the description of what this man told me. The image I saw was distorted and I believed the lies of deception. The devil had me believing that I was a worthless human and of no use in this world. However, a friend I met in my dance studio friended me and started talking positive words of affirmation in my ear. He was not romantically interested in me, although I wished at the time he was, however, he knew better what was needed. He took me out on dates as friends, he held my hand, he kissed me on the cheek and taught me how to change a light bulb ( literally) he taught me the thing I needed most. I needed to love myself, love others for who they were, be independent, and to just be enough. This started the healing process and the confidence to be just me. I used this newfound meaning of confidence to get through the challenges that I would later on face. But my faith in Jesus, my support of good friends (Terry, Beth, and Renee), and marrying my best friend and soul mate helped me grow into the person I have become today.
I found my soulmate and married him after 7 years of being single. He loved me as no one else had. He loved me for me and he loved my kids. We experienced in our first years of marriage troubled teens, an ex-husband that talked trash about me to our kids, I had a baby born premature, I had high blood pressure from the pregnancy, and nearly lost my life as it got to stroke level and older kids that are now estranged as a result of the divorce and remarriage. I recently lost my dad unexpectedly and have to take care of my elderly mom who lost her eyesight completely from Diabetes complications, but guess what? I am a warrior and I fought the good fight on the battleground of life and no matter what the enemy tries to throw at me, I will use my shield to fight back. I am not going to be defeated no matter what.
I share this with you today because many times I have women come to me and say your life is so perfect I could never get out of the mess that I am in. No, my life is not perfect, my life is messy like anyone else’s, but what makes it different, is the outlook I look at life with. Circumstances at times cannot be changed but how we look at them is something that we can control. I have a special needs child with intellectual disability and yes he is a handful at times, but nevertheless, God gave me this little boy to share the miracle that he is because he is fortunate to be here on this earth. Doctors gave him zero chance of being conceived naturally, 5% chance of survival after being born, and towards the end of my pregnancy when my blood pressure got to 220/124 and my son stopped breathing, a crash c-section was done to get him out and we both crashed. But guess what? On October 13, 2009, God breathed life into my lungs and baby Kaleb and said today is the day that I have set aside to give you something to share and give hope to others. That became my testimony and how the nonprofit organization The Gift of Life was born.
Through this confidence in myself that came from my Lord and Savior and the support of a loving husband, I completed my bachelor’s degree in nursing as well as my Doctorate of Nurse Practice, I established 27 Miracles Wedding and Event Planning Windermere Baby and Family , Rosie Moore author of children’s books and adult books, and a representative of Ms. Puerto Rico World. SO this may seem like a lot of accomplishments and they are, but what good does it do me if I do not share my gifts and talents to help others?
Matthew 16:26 What good will it be for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul? Or what can anyone give in exchange for their soul?
So look in the mirror, open your eyes, and repeat this, “My name is Rosie Moore ( insert your own name), I am fearfully and wonderfully made, and I am more than enough. “
Psalm 139:14 says I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
When planning out goals in life, there are many self-help books, blogs, and methods to do this. One way is to start writing the goal that you want to accomplish in life. Read those goals daily and believe in them. You can achieve them if you plan on them. Start by identifying the goals into categories, for example, which ones are short-term that can happen in the immediate future in under six months. A long-term goal is something that will take longer than a year to accomplish. Under each goal, write down the length of time that you anticipate it will take to achieve that goal. Once the goal and the time frame are established, write the steps that are required to get to that goal. When the goal is identified, steps are put in place on how to achieve it, and the timeframe for the goal to be accomplished. It allows your overall perspective on life to be encouraging. As the goals are being worked on, they can be marked off to allow recognition that you have accomplished a step in your process to attain the final step, completion of a goal.
In the business world we, use an acronym called SMART goals. It stands for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic/Relevant and Timely. The reason that we want to think of this acronym when we are planning our goals is that we want to be certain that we are not just idly making a statement and not doing anything to achieve it. An example of a goal not using the SMART form, is “I want to be a nurse one day.” This is a great goal, but if it is a realistic goal that you want to accomplish, then it needs feet to walk along the road.
Here is a better way to phrase this, ” I want to be a nurse one day. In order for me to accomplish this goal, I need to:
Specific: I need to enroll in a school of nursing, in order to become a nurse
Measurable: According to the curriculum, it will take me 2 years to become a nurse and 4 years if I do my bacehlors in nursing.
Attainable: If I start in the Fall of 2018, I will be done in the fall of 2020 and I can start to work right away. I can continue my education for the bachelor’s classes while I work and gain experience as a nurse.
Realistic: The goal of going to school for the first two years and obtaining my nursing degree is more a realistic goal because I need to work and I can do that in two years.
Timely: I am going to sign up today to start classes in the fall of 2018, the curriculum for associates in nursing is two years, so if I follow the pattern, I will graduate in the fall of 2020.
This is just one scenario of a SMART goal, it can be anything that you set your mind to do.
Author Rosie Moore followed her dream and worked on her SMART goal to obtain her doctorate of nurse practice. Although the challenges were enough to get discouraged, she graduated and obtained the final outcome, her DNP. Contact Rosie Moore to work with her in empowering your next journey to your destination.
Dr. Rosie Moore receives her doctorate of nurse practice degree!!
December 27, 2005, a man named Marcus Moore asked me to be his wife by heart-shaped fireworks as we watched them from my house. Today is our 12 year engagement anniversary. Many don’t know the whole story, but if you read my book A Story of Faith, you will be able to read in detail how we ended up together. Today is about saying thank you to a man that allowed me in 12 years to become who I am today. In 12 years I completed my bachelors, masters and I am also almost finished with my doctorate of nurse practice. We started a successful wedding business 27 Miracles, a non-profit organization called The Gift of Life, expanded my love of dance to a point where I could go to a competition in a group and win 1st place with my group, performed in ballets, Christmas shows, and musicals. We have traveled to places I have never been before, learned to laugh, and care about others, write books, and become a legal nurse. We had a beautiful baby boy that although born prematurely was the inspiration to start a non-profit to help other premature babies and their families.
I was able to achieve a Master Bridal Consultant designation. My latest accomplishment was the designation of Mrs. Windermere International, through this title I am able to reach audiences I would never have dreamed of reaching for my platform The Gift of Life.
To think he manages all this in my life. I am sure there is so much more …but first of all, I thank God for placing Marcus in my path many years ago and then I thank Marcus for being there for me through the ups and downs of life. Happy 12 year engagement anniversary! A serendipity moment that neither of us will ever forget.
If today you are looking for that serendipity moment in your life, do not worry it will come. I waited almost 8 years for it.
The Christmas season brings out the giving in all of us. This Christmas season consider volunteering your time to something near and dear to your heart. Your help makes a difference to those that can use a cheerful smile and are not able to have as Merry a Christmas due to circumstances in their lives. Today, The Gift of Life a nonprofit organization will be packaging bears and hats for over 200 families that will have babies in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit and are not able to go home for Christmas.
I remember when my son was born 13 weeks premature and how upset I was because I was not able to bring him home and enjoy his first Christmas. But the kind gesture of an anonymous person who gave us an umbrella, a devotion book, and a rattle for our baby uplifted my spirit. It was not about the gifts, it was about the note that was attached, “I know that this is a difficult time not being able to take your baby home for Christmas, but we are here for you and praying for your little miracle.”
From that day on, my husband and I decided that we were going to make a difference and pay it forward. Today we are The Gift of Life, a nonprofit organization that started supporting parents of premature babies and their babies in the NICU. We started with cookies….you too can make a difference…
We could not do what we do without our ladies who knit and crochet from Good Samaritan Village and all over Central Florida and even as far as St Lucia!! These ladies knit and crochet with love and feel very honored to be a part of a baby’s life as they recuperate in teh Neonatal Intensive Care Unit. To learn more about our knitters or join our group please follow them at The Gift of Life Knitters
Did you ever ask yourself, why do I love my significant other? Why do I tolerate football games on Sundays, the remote being lost, the different ways that your significant other handles the kids vs. how you do? Is it love? Is it being complacent? Is it because there is no one else out there? Deep down when you think about the reasons that you fell in love, those reasons are all there. Love is messy and not the way you see it on Hallmark movies. I love my Hallmark movies and never miss a chance to watch them. As a matter of fact, I have not missed any of the Valentine’s Day movies they have been showing over the last 2 weeks. So today on the eve of Valentine’s Day, I think about all of that and I ask myself, “why do I love Marcus so much?”
When Marcus and I met, he left a whole world behind in NJ to be with my two children and me. He did not look back to see what he left behind. A few years later, we had a baby that was born at 27 weeks. I became very sick with stroke level blood pressure and almost lost my life. After the baby was born 13 weeks early, he took care of me and made sure that I got to the hospital for 5 months while our baby hung on for his life. When the baby came home, he left his job to take care of the him full-time because of all the medical challenges that he had. It has been 7 years since our baby was born and thanks to him, our son has had a fighting chance of recovery as he received care from therapists at home and good medical care.
When he is not taking care of the baby, he is taking care of our dog Daisy and my parents. He nursed our family dog Rusty until his last breath, When he could not walk, he would pick him up and take him outside, bathe him, brush him and hand feed him. When my older kids need something, they call on him and he is always there with a smile on his face to lend a helping hand. There are not any words to express what he does for us all. In between all of this, he manages my author contracts, our wedding business 27 Miracles, and our charity The Gift of Life. He is now my manager as well for Mrs. Windermere. Inbetween all of this, he goes out and marries couples . Happy Valentine’s Day to my angel and funny Valentine Marcus, God gave me a Winner!!!!”
So today take a moment to share how you are celebrating Valentine’s Day? Post your story here on my facebook page with a picture of your love and we will share it.