My Child is Different, But He is Wonderfully Made

My Child is Different, But He is Wonderfully Made


Have you ever been a mamma bear and you watch someone bully your child or treat them differently because they are not the same as other children? I can understand that a child, may not understand, but adults do and need to set an example for their kids. Children learn what they see, hear, and are told. One of the first things that children are taught in the Bible is always ” I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” Psalm 139:14. They are also taught that Jesus loves the little children. So wouldn’t that mean that if a child has intellectual disabilities that they too are loved by Jesus? Are they not capable of being loved by others even if they are different?

I was moved today to write about an incident that to some may seem like an innocent gesture but to a mom who is tired from working 16 hour days as a nurse some weeks 7 days per week with a special needs child that has been distance learning for almost three months, and is now in virtual summer school, with lots of energy to give, it is hurtful. I sit writing with tears in my eyes not because my feelings were hurt, but because my little boy noticed that he was made to feel different and really can’t comprehend why.

My son was born 13 weeks early, he is a miracle. He was given a 5% chance of survival, he is immune-compromised due to his little lungs, he has 1 kidney, and is underweight. But guess what? He has a heart full of love for all that he meets, he loves people, and is the sweetest little boy. He does not know the color of skin, race, or disabilities, he only knows love. Why, because my husband and I instill the values in him to love everyone. But today on a zoom call made for kids, he was cut out of a video zoom class that was made for kids. We had him on silent because we know he can sometimes be chatty but he was making funny faces while he sat and looked at himself in the little video box honestly may have been a little bored because he is on these zoom calls daily for distance learning. But as a mom we always want our kids to get nurtured in groups that we think will make a difference in their lives.

All of Kaleb’s school teachers embrace him and know he is a handful but they love him just the same and find coping skills to help him. His hyperactivity is not something that can always be controlled, but trust me this little boy tries hard. If you told me ten years ago that we would be enduring this and would I want to terminate the pregnancy because we spent 162 days in the neonatal intensive care unit, with a little boy that is special needs, and only has 1 kidney, and may require help with making decisions later in life, I would say no. I would do it all over again. God placed this little boy in our lives for a reason. Through the test that we endured, we created The Gift of Life, an organization that supports parents of premature babies while they are in the neonatal intensive care unit. Through our hurt, we knew that we could take a mess and create a message that would reach many to help them find comfort in knowing that they are loved and supported no matter what race, religion, socioeconomic status, or nationality they are.

God never gives us more than we can handle and He knows who can tolerate a test. He really must think we can handle it because in these last three months, my test of trials has been huge. My husband and I vowed that we would do the best for our son and never let him down. We have my mom who lost her eyesight due to diabetes and a retinal detachment shortly after my dad passed away unexpectedly so therefore she stays with us. We have two puppies that keep us busy but fulfill our lives too. We wonder why all of this with COVID-19 surfaced and now with the Floyd murder and the violence that some groups are creating. With all of this, it is enough to send someone over the edge and totally give everything up, But I have had some strong women in my life.

Anitra Manning that is on our board tells me that I matter and what I am doing in the community matters so I need to hang in there, She loves our Kaleb so much, he is her “little buddy. “

Elisa Planellas our executive director who moved to Florida 1.5 years ago to help run the charity. She was running the charity for four years from a distance and then said she needed to move close to help us more. She takes care of our websites and gives freely of her time and never asks for a dime, on the contrary, she gives of her time and money to the charity through the services she purchases to run our digital website. She is another person that loves our Kaleb and keeps him entertained with her witty questions that make him think.

Ms. Melanie Johnson, Kaleb’s kindergarten teacher who always checks on Kaleb and me and sends me encouraging messages and support to hang in there. She was the first teacher to assure me that Kaleb will learn everything in his own time. She was so right!

Mrs. Nicole Pagan, Kaleb’s 2nd-grade teacher, this woman is a saint, there is so much that she has done throughout the years to go above and beyond the call of a teacher duty to help my family. She loves our Kaleb so much and looks out for his best interest always. She always includes me in her kiddos storytimes even after Kaleb has moved on beyond 2nd grade.

Alexia Rivera, God bless this girl, she has the patience of an angel with Kaleb. She supports me in every way that she can with her positive words and encouraging thoughts. She is one of the most thoughtful people I know. She has the gift of comfort and support. She loves our Kaleb as if he were her family.

Ms. Rosa, one of Kaleb’s teacher’s aides at school, you have to meet her. She loves our little miracle like her own. I never have to worry when he is in her care because she has just loved on him and me.

Ms. Kelly, this woman has been all that Kaleb talks about when it comes to his inflatables. She helps his creativity and looks for ways to bring his little heart joy. She is one of the aides in school that always has a watchful eye for our Kaleb.

I apologize for the long post, but I really wanted to point out that there are people that will love my son for who he is and not treat him differently because he is different. You just have to get to know him because he will melt your heart. Like my other favorite person in the world, Mrs. June Ings calls him, the little senator. He got this name when she attended our first charity gala and watched our little Kaleb, then 5 yrs old, greet people with a handshake like his dad in his little tuxedo and tell people that he was Kaleb with The Gift of Life. Mrs. June has always been there for me especially when I myself have experienced racism and bullying.

So today I leave you with these short verses:

John 7:24 “Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment.”

Acts 10:34-35 “So Peter opened his mouth and said: “Truly I understand that God shows no partiality, but in every nation anyone who fears him and does what is right is acceptable to him.”

Romans 2:11 For God shows no partiality.

John 13:34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.

So you see to the person that excluded a little boy today from a zoom call because he was making funny faces in an environment that was supposed to be fun for kids, I say, think about what Jesus would have done at that moment. Kids are not perfect by any means, but special needs kids are definitely not perfect either, but they have something that many wish they had, unbiased love for other people.

Are You Living at Peace?

As we stop to think of what is happening in the world and what our youth is being exposed to, I can’t help but pray for our nation and my own little one growing up in this world.

When I started to work today and went about my day, I reflected on what having peace in my life means to me.  It represents that centuries ago a baby was born and for 33 years He dedicated His life to share God’s Word, heal the sick, and give faith to those who lacked it by the miracles He performed on earth.  This baby was God’s only Son that He gave up to save us.  I know most people will bypass my writing today, but it’s okay I don’t mind, those that need the encouragement will read it.

As I watch this video I think of what it represents.  It represents the joy of God when we are saved and how He loves us and will do anything for us, however He gives us free will.  In that free will, we have to recognize that we need Him when we stray.  Many things call us away from the Lord, drugs, alcohol, wrong crowds, parties, and just whatever is sin in general. We have all fallen short as the Bible says, but as we repent of our sins daily God forgives us.  Sometimes we have to go through many trials of failures, illnesses, financial ruin, and fall on our face and even get so close to death before we surrender all to God. Why is that?  Because   we are all human and have free will,

Despite our sins, Jesus is interceding for us.  But He cannot help us if we don’t ask Him in to our lives and surrender our hearts to Him.  I am not saying that once that happens we will be free of all harm, because in this world we will have trials.  But I can promise you that the trials can be more tolerable with God by our side.

Watch in this video about how this young lady has the love of the Lord but then a fast talking boyfriend offers her love that she thinks is missing in her life.  That love leads to sex, drugs, alcohol, bulimia, cutting herself and almost losing her life and when she cries out to the Lord, the battle she faces to try and leave.  But what happens? As she is fighting, you can see the Lord interceding for her, she asks God for strength and the Lord comes to fight for her and takes the beatings to save her.  Many of us are just like her in this video, fighting to get to the Lord but we don’t know how to get to Him because many things get in the way.  Today I am here to tell you that you do not have to fight anymore, just reach out to God call His name and He will help you.

As you see in this video, The Lord cleans her up and takes her in His arms because He loves us as we are.  Today and tomorrow as you reflect on your own life and what peace means, think about these words, many centuries ago, a man gave up His life of comfort and security because His Father asked Him to.  As an obedient Son, He did, why would He do that you ask? He gave up His life because we are all God’s children and He wanted all of us to have an opportunity to be saved. So today, reach out to Him.

This post came as a surprise to me, but I am posting it because it is what I felt in my heart to write.

John 3:16 –21 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. 17 For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. 18 Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because they have not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son. 19 This is the verdict: Light has come into the world, but people loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil. 20 Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed. 21 But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God.”

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