As career women, it seems that we are always out in the public eye, so preparing to leave the house well put together is a must! However, as my favorite bible scripture says, ” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. ” Proverbs 31:30
Do you wonder after reading this verse if our focus should be on our spiritual foundation vs. our makeup foundation? How about priming and preparing our hearts to receive the love of God and give that same love to others? How about being completely open with God about our flaws instead of concealing them like we do when we wear concealer makeup.
As a pageant queen, I am asked to be at multiple events, tv , radio shows, and photoshoots that at times give me no downtime to be just Rosie Moore. Anyone that knows me as Rosie Moore knows that for me wearing my shorts and flip flops is my downtime attire! But in those moments I am representing a brand I am the glamourous dressed up Rosie Moore. I use that brand to help promote The Gift of Life. I understand the struggles to always look our best. Today I wanted to share with my readers about focusing on our inward appearance. An example of how we focus on our inward appearance is how we choose to act on our words and how we treat others. What are we doing to serve others?
Read Proverbs 31 ( I copied it here for you). I know many of you are saying that you cannot live to the expectation of this Proverbs 31 Queen who is perfect. But guess what we are all a work in progress whether we are married with kids, married without kids, or single.
Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character
10 [b]A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. 11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. 12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. 13 She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. 14 She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. 15 She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. 16 She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings, she plants a vineyard. 17 She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. 18 She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. 19 In her hand, she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. 20 She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. 21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. 22 She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. 23 Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. 24 She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. 25 She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. 26 She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. 27 She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. 28 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: 29 “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” 30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. 31 Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
According to 1 Peter 3:3-4 ” Your beauty should not come from outward adornments, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. “
What beauty in this verse! So what I gather about the Proverbs 31 woman is the following:
She is a faithful hard-working woman who gets up early; she is a career woman who is highly trained. She looks for different ways to bring income. She is respected by her husband and her children; she gives to the poor, she is planning for her future, she speaks wisdom, she fears the Lord, she is clothed with strength and dignity.
This is a woman that is not having a pity party or comparing her looks to others. She does the three things that the Lord commands, she serves the Lord, she loves others and her family, and she serves the poor.
So you are asking how can you become a Proverbs 31 woman who is of noble character?
-Spend more time meditating on the words in the scripture
-Connect with women who can lift each other up and encourage us ( with international women’s day coming up on 3/8/20, join Rosie Moore and a few other woman in the community for Annisa’s coffee with a queen here is the link https://www.facebook.com/events/892199741183311/ .
-Start to look at the way you speak and avoid negative words
-Use positive words before issuing a complaint or criticim.
Last year as I finished my pageant in West Virginia as Mrs. Southern States International, I said to my husband this poster-size picture that was given to me will be a gift for my dad because he always called me his little princess. I felt like Cinderella in this gown and I knew that he would be proud of the accomplishments that I had made.
We came home that week from the pageant in West Virginia ( Mrs. International) and visited with my dad. I said to him when I get back from our family beach vacation, I have a special gift for you. Marcus, my son and I went to the beach for a much-needed vacation and time off to rest after a busy 2 weeks of traveling for the pageant and work. We came back from the beach on 8/3/19. I had plans to go and see my dad that day, but our little one had a stomach bug and was not feeling well so I called my mom and said I will be by tomorrow. On 8/4/19, my mom called me frantically that 911 was at the house because Dad had stopped breathing. My heart sank. My mom said that all week long my dad kept asking when I was coming home. On 8/3/19 he was excited because he knew that I was coming home. My poor dad held out I guess as long as he could. He must have known that he was not feeling well and did not share it with anyone. He passed away on 8/4/19. After that, I lost my interest in pageantry and many other things. I still had to fulfill my title for Mrs. Southern States International but in my heart, I was hurting because my biggest cheerleader was gone.
As the weeks went by I started looking at pictures of my Dad from when he was growing up and from the army where he served. It occurred to me that I was going to honor my dad and represent his birthplace of Puerto Rico. I lived there for about two years as a baby. I wanted to connect with a large system that would allow me the ability to represent Puerto Rico and that was the Ms. World Pageant System. But I had to interview first in order to be accepted as a contestant due to the number of women that want to be a part of a large system. When I interviewed with the director Nancy, I was not sure what would happen, but I gave it my best shot. Yes! I was accepted to represent Puerto Rico!! I was so happy.
In doing my research, according to the March of Dimes, in Puerto Rico, the preterm birth rate is 11.9% a report card grade of F which is higher than the national average of 10% grade letter C. In one city called Caguas which is about 20 miles from San Juan, the capital of Puerto Rico, the premature birth rate is 15.8%. “Dr. Antonio Ortiz University Pediatric Hospital in San Juan is the only one in the country that offers level-four services to local patients and across the rest of the Caribbean islands. In addition, the hospital provides surgery and neurosurgery services, as well as intensive care for premature patients with a delicate clinical panel. “
As Ms. Puerto Rico World, my goal is to reach the Hispanic Community and provide support to parents of premature babies not only in Puerto Rico but right here in central Florida and any other location in need. In Florida, the premature birth rate amongst the Hispanic community is 9.1%. The overall premature birth rate in Florida is 10.3%. So when you ask me why I am passionate about supporting parents of premature babies and teaching preventative healthcare to avoid premature birth it is no surprise that the response is, look at the statistics and that will tell you the story.
If you are a business, parent of a premature baby, pregnant with a baby, thinking of getting pregnant, or a healthcare professional, take a moment to read about me Rosie Moore Ms. Puerto Rico World and let’s unite to educate and support families to avoid premature birth. If premature birth is unavoidable, let’s support these families through The Gift of Life Charity www.thegiftoflife27.org.
Do you ever wake and feel like your whole day is going to be great and then your entire morning falls apart? Sometimes we make plans for what we think our life should be like but then life throws a curveball. I travel locally for work in Gainesville, Brevard, Marion, Tampa, and Orlando region. I used to hate traveling and would never take jobs requiring travel, but about two years ago I took the plunge to work for myself. I am a nurse consultant and I manage clients who need medical attention after suffering injuries and clients who are homebound. I love what I do now as I can help clients get what they need.
So circling back to my perfectly laid out day that didn’t happen, I was not at peace with the world. All it takes is one rude comment, one complication, or really anything outside of our perfect plan to make our mood change. For me it was just that and as I drove in my car to see clients, I started to listen to my favorite Christian radio station z88.3 and the disc jockey shared the following verse “charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. ” Proverbs 31:30. This very verse is what is on my pageant business cards. Why I chose this verse is because as a pageant queen our exteriors can be all glammed up but our interior can be broken and we are just putting on a show to save face. So to me, this verse is a daily reminder that my job is to serve the Lord daily and not get hung up on how imperfect my day started. When I heard it on the radio today it spoke to my heart and reminded me that I need to pray.
As I drove to Melbourne today admiring the beauty of nature, I meditated on Proverbs 31:30 and prayed for forgiveness of ever doubting that God always steers us to His plan. Here is my view today as I wait on a client. I can feel the warm spring breeze gently rustling the leaves on the trees, the sun shining, and the absolute silence in this parking lot of a medical plaza. Not one person is seen walking here, no through traffic of cars; just silence. I think it was for sure a divine appointment for a reflection of my soul.
When I was a manager of a team of nurses and social workers, collaboration existed in my direct report team, and as a team, we functioned using critical thinking, interdisciplinary team approach and collaboration on cases together. But in the big picture of corporate America under the manager that I reported to, this was not acceptable, it was more along the lines of a multidisciplinary team. In this type of team, you only have individual thinking in the group, meaning their way and no other opinions. The focus would be on tasks and check off systems regardless if it was feasible to do (Rubenfeld & Scheffer, 2014).
Nurses do have the ability to be leaders, educators and changers of a system, if assertive enough to make that change, but in order to do so, a good team of interprofessional people is needed (Denisco & Barker, 2012). Because at the end of the day, the patient is who counts and why changes are necessary. If more companies were focused on having a management style that was transformational vs transactional, this would alleviate the unnecessary resignation of employees, corrective action plans and disgruntled employees.
In my team, for instance, a good way that we incorporated learning was to have one person do a case study every week. They would team up with another person on the team to present the case study on a difficult patient. During this time the team had the ability to comment on the case, make suggestions and also refer to our medical director for review. This allowed me to mentor the nurses and social workers during our weekly meetings so that we could continue to go over any other cases that may have been difficult or of concern to them.
Denisco, S. M., & Barker, A. M. (2012). 25. Advanced practice nursing: Evolving rules for the transformation of the profession (2nd ed., pp. 547-567). [Vital Source Bookshelf] Retrieved from https://campus.capella.edu/web/library/home
Rubenfeld, M. G., & Scheffer, B. (2014). Critical thinking and patient-centered care. Critical thinking tactics for nurses: achieving the IOM competencies (3rd ed., pp. 155-180). [Vital Source Bookshelf]. Retrieved from https://campus.capella.edu/web/library/home
I had the opportunity to interview Mary Alice Cullen, a Director of Patient Care Services. She oversees the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU), labor and delivery, pediatrics, maternity ward, and the women’s clinic. Mary graduated in May, 2016 with her Doctorate of Nurse Practice. Mary has always wanted to get her MSN. As she started to study to get her MSN, it opened her eyes to endless possibilities of what she could do with her degree. When she graduated with her MSN, the position that she was in opened up for her and she took on the job. As she went through her role she wanted to make more of an impact on the role and the clients and staff she was supporting. Mary decided to continue school for her Doctorate in Nurse Practice (DNP) with a concentration on Executive Doctorate in Nurse Practice, and this degree is also approved by the American Nurses Credentialing Center (ANCC). Her attributes are that of a caring leader, one that will work with her staff to encourage and teach them and empower them to be the best that they can be, even when they do not see that they can.
Mary does not often do hands-on care she is in an executive role. However, she does round daily. She provides support to her managers that manage the staff, in order to provide better care for the patients. Her leadership model is Kouzes and Posner, but if she is scrubbed in for surgery in labor and delivery, her transactional model side comes out. Meaning this is a time as a transactional manager, where following directions the same way every day is crucial. Mary most recently participated in a study that involved strategic planning of having single-family NICU rooms for the parents. These were her visionary plans and the hospital agreed after the research was completed, that having individualized patient rooms in the NICU, would benefit the staff and the parents of the babies.
My leadership style is very similar to Mary’s in that I lead by example and I am not afraid to do the work that my staff does. This makes a strong leader because the people who follow you will know that although you are in a position of higher authority, you will still be humble enough to do the job your staff does and be able to explain it from their side and understand the position that they are in. Knowing your staff’s job by example, allows the manager to know the timeliness of things that need to be accomplished and the ability of each worker’s caseload and what they can manage. There are seven attributes to being a good leader and Mary possesses those in her character, her track record to be given assignments and projects that have been successful and in the skills that she shows handling her staff (Baer, 2012).